Three live online evenings about people pleasing, honest responses, desire, disappointment —and discovering that connection doesn’t have to cost you yourself.
Maybe you’re really good at sensing what other people need.
You notice the tiny shift in someone’s face. You’re considerate, attentive, generous. And phrases like “I don’t mind,” “whatever works for you,” and “it’s really okay” roll beautifully off your tongue.
Sometimes it really is okay.
And sometimes… you have no idea what you want anymore.
Welcome, fellow pleaser. ♡
There is just one small logistical problem with always taking everybody else into account:
You are also in the room.
What if you didn't have to care less?
People pleasing makes sense. Being easy, helpful, kind or low-maintenance can be a pretty intelligent way of staying connected.
But pleasing isn't always quite as innocent as it looks.
Sometimes I’m not only being generous. I’m managing what you think of me.
Sometimes I say yes because I don’t want to deal with your disappointment.
Sometimes I’m so busy making sure you’re comfortable that I disappear from the interaction.
Ouch.
It's not about becoming less sensitive, generous or relational.
I want to explore what happens when you get to be part of the relationship too.
Can I sense you and sense me?
Can I say yes, no, maybe, not like that, or how about this instead?
Can I let you be disappointed in me?
Can giving be something I genuinely enjoy rather than something I owe?
That's what these three evenings are about.
1 — Owning the Pleaser
What do I actually do when I please?
We’ll explore how we become easy, useful or agreeable to prevent conflict, rejection or disappointment — including the ways we might try to manage how others see us.
With curiosity, humor and role play, we’ll meet the pleaser rather than trying to get rid of them.
And underneath: what is this strategy protecting?
Recognition → ownership → compassion.
2 — Risking an Honest Response
People pleasing isn't only struggling to say no.
It's saying yes too quickly. Not knowing what you want. Not asking. Not realizing you can negotiate.
We'll practice slowing down enough to find an actual response:
Yes. No. Maybe. Not like that. Yes, if… How about this instead?
And underneath it all:
Can I let another person have a reaction to my truth?
3 — The Pleaser’s Pleasure
Sensitivity, attunement and generosity aren't the enemy.
We'll explore how to sense what another person might enjoy while staying connected to what you genuinely want to offer.
What happens when giving becomes desire rather than obligation?
What becomes possible when it doesn't have to be you or me?
Three evenings, three steps
Accessible. Playful. And yes, sometimes confronting.
No experience with embodiment, consent or intimacy work needed.
You don't need excellent boundaries or to know exactly what you want, and you never have to share anything you don't want to.
Expect teaching, embodied exploration, breakout practices, role play, reflection
— and probably some laughing at ourselves.
Looking at how we abandon ourselves to secure connection can also touch something deep. Trying something different can feel vulnerable.
We'll make room for both.
Practical stuff
3 live online evenings on Thursdays
October 29 · November 5 · November 12
18:30–21:15 CET (Brussels/Stockholm)
Online via Zoom
The evenings include teaching, embodied exploration, breakout-room practices, role play and reflection, with space for questions and sharing when time allows.
Can't join every evening live?
The evenings will be recorded, without participants’ personal sharing and processes. You'll have access to the recordings afterward.
Joining live is warmly recommended; this is experiential and relational work.
Price
Low income — €85 (6 places available)
Standard — €120
High income — €155
Everyone receives the same experience. There is no deluxe people-pleasing package hiding behind the €155 ticket. :)
Choose the price that honestly fits your financial situation. The low-income places are for those for whom the standard price would make joining difficult; choosing the high-income price helps me keep them available.
A recovering Master Pleaser,
teaching people pleasing?
Yep.
I know this one from the inside.
I've called myself an Expert in Conflict-Avoidance and written about my adventures as a Master Pleaser — from over-apologizing to taking responsibility for everybody else's emotions and the classic “it's all the same to me.”
A lot has changed.
And I still catch the old reflex sometimes.
This isn't about never pleasing again. It's about noticing sooner, having more choices — and discovering how much more intimacy and pleasure become possible when you show up too.
You can read my ironic blog article:
